Khalid Latif- Single Life as a Muslim

Khalid Latif- Single Life as a Muslim

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2009 Summer

Ok so this summer kinda sucked, I mean it could have been worse. Alhamdulillah nothing drastically terrible occurred, but it was pretty drab and unsatisfying.

For one reason or another I did learn a lot about how others perceive me. Unfortunately some things that I had no control over from my past (like my parents divorce) came back to kick me in the behind this summer. I thought I had suffered the consequences of that mess enough already, but I suppose not…which is sad. 

I’m 1/2 Puerto Rican and 1/2 Pakistani, I take to the Pakistani culture wayyy more. Due to the status of my family it seems that marrying into a traditional Pakistani family will be rough, but Insha’Allah I will be blessed with a future husband and family that will appreciate what I have worked for as an individual, and how I have persevered despite the circumstances surrounding me. I am so excited about making a family, one that I can finally belong to and feel 100% apart of, Insha’Allah it will happen, soon.

Besides that I’m still working on my registered nursing degree, cant wait till that’s done and over with! 🙂 Ive lost some weight and started practicing yoga again. I’m thinking of starting a project so that I have something else to look forward to in life, something that doesn’t involve me depending on someone else for acceptance, or like in college where I have to wait for my degree. Ive been wanting to write a book for a long time now, Ive even started a story or two but haven’t found the will to end it. I think its the types of stories I start, this time I think I’ll incorporate the many things Ive experienced in life, finding inspiration from my own story, hmmmm…..

 

Ramadan started a few days ago, today was rough for me because I had a lot of running around to do but Alhamdulillah I didn’t break my fast. Ramadan always manages to teach us more about ourselves, these lessons for me are more important than the ones I learned through the judgmental eyes of others because the lessons I learn from Ramadan actually involve me, my efforts, my success in fighting temptations and such, I know I have a lot to work on, no one is perfect. May Allah make it easy on me and my loved ones.

The summer isn’t over yet, lets hope the rest of it is positive!

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The Union

When your best isn’t sufficient

and your dreams are in submission

know that Ill be by your side

to support you through the ride

When loves soil seems too dry

and the wings of hope wont fly

know that what we have will lift you

good or bad Ill be there with you

When I’m questioning the world

and the challenges unfurl

let me know you’re on my side

to support me through the ride

Its a mutual condition

formed under heavens permission

we are all we really have

whole only with our other halve

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Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart. -Author Unknown

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Words

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

You have to believe in a statement in order for it to have a profound effect on you. If someone said you were an ugly/smelly giraffe would you get frustrated, cry, and let it ruin the rest of your day?  You wouldn’t because you know who you are. Regardless of what is said to us, if it is negative, we need to ask these 3 questions:

1.Who is speaking

2.What they are saying

and

3.Why they are saying it

Sometimes we say hurtful things to vent about negative feelings that are totally unrelated to the people we are hurting. Consider this next time your feelings are hurt by words. We have the power to control the extent of pain we experience as a result of words, remember that.

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Quality of Life

Whats the point of living a life of vast quantity (many years) when the quality of that life is poor, am I suggesting suicide…NEVER, but I am suggesting that we cater to the quality of our lives.

Turn off the TV, computer (my blog will be here when you get back), radio and whatever else it is that snatches focus from whats truly important…that which is around us, the people we love, the thoughts we’ve ignored, the feelings we’ve hid from, and so on.

In a Rush?

Are we necessarily in a rush if we marry at what others perceive as a young age, life is short, who is to say how long someones life will last.  When marriage does enter the picture and doesn’t turn out to be a replica of your favorite Cosby episode does that mean its no longer worth the effort? Of course not =)

If your job hasn’t been everything you wished it to be, if college has been unproductive, if ANYTHING you have invested in does not live up to your expectations do NOT dwell on it. Take note of it, accept it, and then change it for the better!

Don’t water weeds

Some people use their problems as an excuse to pacify themselves “ohhhh I’m so lonely, no one likes me, none of my old friends call me, I don’t have any one to talk to…” If the quality of your social life isn’t one you are happy with DO SOMETHING about it rather than sit and sulk. Sulking is not an action, its regressive behavior (that may be slightly comforting in some masochistic way at the moment) but is like a drug that in the long run will prove to be destructive.

“Better to light a candle than curse the darkness”

 

Point is only we are to blame if the quality of our life isn’t one we are happy with. Cater to the quality of your life and everything else will find a way to work itself out.

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Anything is possible….

 

When it comes to love, anything is possible

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Not a product but a person

I am not a fortunate person in idealistic terms but I am blessed. My family isn’t an idealistic one but we are a family. Some may say I am a victim because I don’t have an ideal relationship with my biological father and my economic situation isn’t ideal but I do not perceive myself to be a victim.  That’s not WHO I am.

I am an ideal person however…I have a genuine heart, an honest heart, a good heart, and pure intentions. I have respect for families, marriages, and people who sacrifice themselves for those types of bonds because I know what it is to not have that (and to have that). I am aware of how important we all are to each other.

I have risen above most tests Allah (swt) has handed me Alhamdulillah, that is the type of person I have become, the type that rolls with the punches and gets up after a knockout to try to keep fighting. I deserve respect, consideration, and love….pure as that which is inside of me.

Anyone who cannot appreciate how I have grown and persevered through the worse does not deserve me at my best.

I am not a product, I am a person. My life cannot be sold, my love cannot be sold, those things are priceless and so am I.

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